Getting Over Social Anxiety, Shyness and Social Phobia...
A 25 year old young man named Rohit Sharma, a software engineer by profession, has been suffering from a weird problem for the last 15 years. He wants to go to parties and other social events, he wants to make friends... indeed, he is very, very lonely... but he never goes anywhere because he's very nervous about meeting new people. Too many people will be there and crowds only make things worse for him.
The thought of meeting new people scares him... will he know what to say? Will they stare at him and make him feel even more insignificant? Will they reject him outright? Even if they seem nice, they're sure to notice his frozen look and his inability to fully smile. They'll sense his discomfort and tenseness and they won't like him... there's just no way to win... "I'm always going to be an outcast,"he predicts. He feels to walk, to talk, to eat if someone watches him. He tries to hide himself whenever he sees an old friend, relative, co-worker or anyone he knows comes to talk to him. He spends the night alone, at home, watching television and surfing web again. He feels comfortable at home. In fact, home is the only place he does feel completely comfortable. He hasn't gone anywhere else in the last couple of years. He wants to make friends and but he finds himself unable to do so and it’s dragging him into the dark world of depression.
What you think is happening to him? He is suffering from the world’s most popular psychological disorder called social anxiety/social phobia/shyness. Social anxiety is one of the most common and ignored psychological disorders in our society today. People suffering from social anxiety find themselves unable to face social situations. They think that everyone is watching, staring and judging their every single move and therefore they find themselves unable to relax while conversing or doing anything when other people are around. To avoid this tension they start avoiding social gatherings, parties and outings.
“I used to hang out by the food tables at parties because you don’t have to talk to anybody. If you do then you can talk about the food.”
-Jennifer Jason Leigh
The thought of meeting new people scares him... will he know what to say? Will they stare at him and make him feel even more insignificant? Will they reject him outright? Even if they seem nice, they're sure to notice his frozen look and his inability to fully smile. They'll sense his discomfort and tenseness and they won't like him... there's just no way to win... "I'm always going to be an outcast,"he predicts. He feels to walk, to talk, to eat if someone watches him. He tries to hide himself whenever he sees an old friend, relative, co-worker or anyone he knows comes to talk to him. He spends the night alone, at home, watching television and surfing web again. He feels comfortable at home. In fact, home is the only place he does feel completely comfortable. He hasn't gone anywhere else in the last couple of years. He wants to make friends and but he finds himself unable to do so and it’s dragging him into the dark world of depression.
What you think is happening to him? He is suffering from the world’s most popular psychological disorder called social anxiety/social phobia/shyness. Social anxiety is one of the most common and ignored psychological disorders in our society today. People suffering from social anxiety find themselves unable to face social situations. They think that everyone is watching, staring and judging their every single move and therefore they find themselves unable to relax while conversing or doing anything when other people are around. To avoid this tension they start avoiding social gatherings, parties and outings.
“I used to hang out by the food tables at parties because you don’t have to talk to anybody. If you do then you can talk about the food.”
-Jennifer Jason Leigh
You're not alone in this world. Just overcome your shyness
Most of the people develop social anxiety at the age of 23-29. A person suffering from anxiety forces himself to become social and he finds himself unable to do so, he tries to convince himself that he is an introvert person and he likes to be alone with his books, music and computer. Unfortunately, this trick doesn’t work in most of the cases and the social phobic person starts to develop depression.
Actually, the social anxiety is the easiest psychological disorder to treat. It is 100% curable. But most of the people ignore it and by the time they become aware of it and realize the necessity of treatment, they have already developed some other problems like depression, narcissism, insomnia, mania, panic attacks, schizophrenia and clinical depression. Due to the ignorance and misdiagnosis of this easily curable disorder creates havoc in the life of victim. Due to the taboo nature of social anxiety, a person suffering from this considers himself the one and only person of this planet facing this kind of weird problem. The reason that causes social anxiety can vary from person to person. One can develop social anxiety due to the reasons mentioned below-
Actually, the social anxiety is the easiest psychological disorder to treat. It is 100% curable. But most of the people ignore it and by the time they become aware of it and realize the necessity of treatment, they have already developed some other problems like depression, narcissism, insomnia, mania, panic attacks, schizophrenia and clinical depression. Due to the ignorance and misdiagnosis of this easily curable disorder creates havoc in the life of victim. Due to the taboo nature of social anxiety, a person suffering from this considers himself the one and only person of this planet facing this kind of weird problem. The reason that causes social anxiety can vary from person to person. One can develop social anxiety due to the reasons mentioned below-
Excessive Self-Consciousness
Lack of Self-Confidence
Inferiority Complex
Lack of Social Skills
A person suffering from social anxiety can develop it due to the one or all of the above reasons. In most of the cases, medication has been found ineffective to cure social anxiety. Although, cognitive behavioral therapy and hypnotherapy has been found very useful and effective in most of the cases. Almost every psychologist suggests cognitive behavioral therapy as the best treatment of social anxiety. In order to get rid of social anxiety, you need to adopt a completely different approach for the each reason mentioned above.
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Further Readings-
How To Get Rid of Social Anxiety?
Can You Be The Next Bill Gates?
How To Discover Your True Passion?
How To Get Rid of Social Anxiety And Excessive Self-Consciousness
How to get rid of social anxiety and gain self-confidence
Get rid of shyness using self-hypnosis
I have poor social skills (extreme shyness) and no friends.What do I do?
Can You Be The Next Bill Gates?
How To Discover Your True Passion?
How To Get Rid of Social Anxiety And Excessive Self-Consciousness
How to get rid of social anxiety and gain self-confidence
Get rid of shyness using self-hypnosis
I have poor social skills (extreme shyness) and no friends.What do I do?
